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October 15, 2012

How To Enjoy Your Own Party


If the hostess isn't having fun, no one's having fun.  And after all if you can't enjoy your own party what's the point of having one?  Sometimes though, that's easier said than done.  My secret for enjoying your own soiree:  "Plan like hell.  Then let it go."  

This sign shares good advice, too:  If you think something's going to be amazing, it probably will be.  How about you?  What's your hostess secret?  Please share in the comments below. Photo via Kathleen Koenigs / Pinterest.  Source:  The Classy Issue / Tumblr.  More entertaining tips here.

18 comments:

Denise said...

Try to as much stuff ahead as possible, then don't worry if everything isn't perfect, make sure the bar is well stocked

Jacqueline davis moranti said...

Great tip! I've yet to plan my own party! It just seems like such a daunting task!

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therelishedroost said...

Cheers!!!
Karolyn

Vanessa said...

I've always felt like the best thing to do was to NOT do something -- don't push people! Being ushered from one activity to another reminds one of awkward grade school parties. Don't put pressure on people to eat your snacks, try your punch, play your games, or listen to your music. Just let it happen!

PURA VIDA said...

what great advice, I have a huge event this weekend and I need to post this on my fridge or forehead

Style Maniac said...

Great advice, Denise. Thanks for sharing.

Style Maniac said...

Maybe start with something small, Jacqueline -- just a few friends for dinner. If you don't like to cook get great takeout and serve on nice plates, add a few bottles of wine, some non-alcoholic options, put great music on, light some candles, lower the lights et voila! You have a party.

Style Maniac said...

So true, Vanessa! As hostesses we have to stop checking things off our To Do list once the party starts.

Style Maniac said...

Frige or forehead, very funny. Hope it helps! I think the main thing is to remember you are there to have fun.

Leslie said...

I agree! Planning ahead is do important along with simplifying do we aren't too stressed. Keeping things simple allows for less prep time so you will have more time to be with your guests and enjoy the party!

Danielle {freshquince} said...

I try to have heavy appetizers...stuff people can eat without me being in the kitchen. No complicated meals and have a drinks buffet. If everything is self serve, then I don't have to worry if everyone needs a drink or something. Although no matter what I'm always a bit nervous...just my lovely natural nature. Miss you

hammondartbiz said...

Keep it simple...plan foods that are good at room temp as much as you can...give yourself time to chill with a cocktail prior to the first arrival and ENJOY all the friends you've invited!
b

'LUSH' said...

I start in advance with what putting together and preparing my menu. Then days before and up to the last two hours of the party/gathering, I make sure my entire home is clean,refreshing, and mood-set appropriately for visitors/guests. I decorate (usually extra vases of flowers, and candles lit everywhere), unless there need be a theme. Set ups for everything are in place. I usually have several areas in the home with food and drink set ups; desserts in one area, main courses, or appetizers in another, coffee set up and beverages set up in a station (you get the picture). The last two hours before, I get dressed, and ready to welcome my guests. At that point, I am floating around, enjoying everyone, and/or participating in the activities (conversation, picture taking, games, whatever is the theme). Clean up is afterwards. A few times I have hired an assistant/maid/server to clean and serve guests throughout the course of the event, just to lighten the load, but most times it is manageable.

Style Maniac said...

A cocktail before is one of my methods, too. Must work, you are always so relaxed when you entertain, Barb.

Style Maniac said...

So ... when can I come over?! Sounds like the perfect party plan, Shelly.

Style Maniac said...

Thank you all for sharing your great tips!

'LUSH' said...

It'd be awesome to have you as a guest! Who knows......

Heather Lindstrom said...

Plan, plan, plan....and dare I say a little sip of champagne or vino will put me in the right frame of mind to thoroughly enjoy the evening. You hit it right-plan, plan, plan and let it go....
perfect! Cheers, Heather