Oct 23, 2012

Stuff Every Husband Should Know

Style is more than fashion and decorating, it's about how we live and love every day.  Although I have on occasion brought this little book out and left it on the table as a sorta-joke-sorta-hint, the truth is that in a relationship between two strong-willed people, I'm fortunate that some of the stuff my husband knows includes how to break the ice after an argument and make me laugh even when I'm seething. Otherwise, being the embodiment of a cliche half-Italian /100% Scorpion, I could stay mad forever.  Luckily he's both funny -- and pretty damn cute.

The brave author of Stuff Every Husband Should Know, Eric San Juan, also recommends laughter as one of The Ten Commandments of Marriage, along with man-to-man advice such as, "Everything is your fault. Learn to embrace this." and "When your wife says 'fine' it means she is not happy."

Then there's the example I came across in an interview with Eat Pray Love author Elizabeth Gilbert describing her husband: "Jose says: 'A woman's place is in the kitchen ...with a glass of wine, watching him cook.'"

No mystery there why she broke her vow to never remarry.

So what's the secret in your house? What does your husband / boyfirend / significant other know that every other guy out there should?

Stuff Every Husband Should Know by Eric San Juan, published by Quirk Books as part of their "Stuff" series of -- yes, quirky -- little guidebooks to life.

26 comments:

  1. Sounds like the perfect stocking stuffer for my husband! Is it too early to start the Christmas shopping?

    My husband knows the chores I like the least... and he does them without my asking. It is the best thing and such a nice way of showing he loves me (and pays attention!).

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    1. Wow! He is definitely a keeper. Nice to hear from you, TG.

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  2. I think this is great!! Since we didn't come with a manual this is the next best thing LOL
    Great post!
    xo Karolyn

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  3. Your posts bring sanity into my world. thanks again for a good one to mull over and savor.

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    1. Mary, what a wonderful compliment! Thank you.

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  4. I am looking forward to this read myself. Thanks Doreen

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    1. hmmm... does that mean you have some news to share, Zivile?

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  5. I always wanted to marry a guy like Tom Hanks, and I was lucky enough to find one with a great big heart and a sense of humor (and yeah, another cute one!)
    We do have our differences where our personalities are concerned, but it's nice to see some habits, quirks and individual likes gently rub off on each other over the years.

    In my world, I also want my hubby to tell me the truth if I ask about an outfit, haircut, etc., - I like to keep a "NO B.S. Zone" :)

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    1. You got a great guy for sure, Lee.

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  6. I think it's always about not taking the other for granted and acting as a friend. If I think that a meal or folded laundry is expected (even after 30 years of marriage) I get cranky. We differ on our list of priorities on occasion so give and take is really important.

    Great book :)

    leslie

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    1. Wonderful advice, Leslie. Thank you for sharing.

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  7. You have done it once again. Sounds like a great read. Thanks for so many wonderful tips and suggestions. Keep uup the good work. Did you check out the TaylorNaughton websight? I love the purses and got to see some of the hard work that goes into all those hours of creation.
    Elizabeth

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    1. Elizabeth, given your long and happy marriage I am sure you could write such a book!

      Yes I did check out Taylor Naughton -- they are terrific. Thank you for sending me the info.

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  8. A good sense of humor on both sides has probably had the greatest positive impact on our 44 years together. I always say, "44 years...5 of wedded bliss, not necessarily consecutive." I think it helps to be realistic. ;)
    b

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    1. You have me laughing with that one, Barb.

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  9. I live with 4 women, a wife and three daughters, aged 16, 9, and 8. I'm never right. My opinion is considered in the way you consider vegetables then eat a cheeseburger. I know this. Does it suck sometimes? Yeah, but I don;t even pick my battles. I prepare for the zombie apocalypse and know that they'll need my shotgum, bravery and ability to kill every bug that enters the house.

    I'll ignore your eat pray love reference. But this other book sounds cool.

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    1. Ha ha! An actual husband weighs in -- I love it Lance, thank you. Kind of hoping for a zombie apocalypse so you can show your stuff. Although I think those 4 lucky ladies know how good they have it without all the mayhem.

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  10. Yes a perfect stocking stuffer - I might buy a few for my friends to give to their husbands too!
    My husband cooks me breakfast most mornings without me asking. It's pretty nice :)

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    1. Sounds like he could have written the book, Heidi. Lucky you, how sweet.

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  11. I love the honesty and real life feel of this post Doreen. Wonderful! The book sounds like a definite coffee table addition. If my house were on fire the first thing I would save is my bundle of cards and notes from my husband. They are the heart and soul of our sentiments. The only post Scott has written on Stylemindchic was around Valentine's day....a 'how to' write a meaningful card for men. I loved it. I would also say humor helps tremendously. If you can laugh together that's half the battle. :)
    Thanks for sharing....Cheers, Heather

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    1. How touching, Heather. Thank you for sharing.

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  12. Guys here is the magic answer: "Yes"
    And all of your dreams will come true.

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    1. A wise man once told my husband he needed to learn just two words to be happy the rest of his life: "Yes, dear."
      I wonder if you know the same guy?? ;)
      xoxo

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  13. My husband reckons his whole life's ambition is making me happy. I feel like a bit of a meany when he says that - is he a bit afraid of me? - I think yes.

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    1. Hey lucky lady, sounds like we have another co-author contender!

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